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Surrounding yourself

In my last post I talked about how to use people around us as time machines to see the future. In this post, I would like to talk about the value of staying with your past.

Bollywood movies are not known for their educational content, but there was one scene that I loved in a movie called "Luck By Chance", included below.

The context is as following:
Vikram is an aspiring movie star, and has just released his first movie. He is hanging out with friends one evening when a superstar walks in. The role of the superstar is a cameo by Shahrukh, considered by Forbes to be the biggest movie star in the world (makes more money than Tom Cruise).

What follows is a conversation worth watching. The clip is 2 minutes long, mixed 50% in English and 50% in Hindi (but has subtitles).


Most of us become more successful with time. It is not a coincidence. We are conditioned to strive for more money, more fame, more power. The result of our daily endeavor is that most of us end up accumulating more money, fame and power to some extent. Some do it more than others, but most of us do end up more successful than we were as kids.

However, the flip side of that success is that fewer and fewer people will truthfully tell you what they think of your actions and decisions. This includes your coworkers and your friends. They will happily discuss the positives and but not open with the negatives. They also have been conditioned to not be the bad news bearer to a person who commands some sort of power. Each one of is guilty of that behavior!

Here is a way to counter that: Stay close to, do not diverge from, people who will share with you what you are doing wrong. Your old friends, who knew you before you achieved anything. Those in your circle who speak freely and do not care about how they come across to others. And those who are far far more successful than you and are willing to mentor you. Always keep them close.

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